Imtiyaz

p/a : berhati-hati di jalan raya. bertemu kita lepas cuti

Seperti entri yang baru-baru ini saya tulis,bila ditenung-tenung kembali , memang kita akui, SALE, POINTS yang Allah gandakan di bulan mulia adalah ‘uncountable’. Maka berbahagia dan beruntunglah bagi sesiapa yang merebutnya .

Bagi sahabat-sahabat saya yang memang istiqomah melakukan ibadah khusus , maksud saya di sini seperti solat tarawikh, solat sunat, qiyam, tadarus dan sebagainya, pastinya Allah telah creditkan POINTS yang hanya DIA yang tahu jumlahnya ke dalam akaun amalan mereka.Mabruk!

Bagi saya dan mungkin juga sesetangah daripada kita ( cehh, nak jugak cari geng...) yang amal ibadat yang ala-ala, ter’skip’ itu ini, teralpa sekejap namun berusaha untuk merebutnya, moga amalan yang sedikit namun tulus itu dipandang olehNya.

Sepeti komen Mirah, bila suami tinggalkan kita dirumah untuk menunaikan tarawikh di masjid, bagi kita pahala juga walaupun kita tak bersama berjamaah di masjid. Ini yang kita namakan pahala yang intangible..heheh..memandai pulak saya mereka. Menurut pemahaman saya , walaupun kita tak solat bersama di masjid, tapi dek menjaga anak2 sepeninggalan suami jugak beroleh pahala..senang kan. Jangan pulak ditinggalkan kat atuk/nenek/bibik yang jaga sedangkan maknya baeekk punya melayan drama NurKasih tapi nak jugak pahala jaga anak tu… mana aci.. tettttt…

Satu lagi kan sahabat-sahabat.. pahala yang senang untuk kita perolehi dan dah berhari-hari kita perolehi insyaAllah adalah bilamana kita tunggang terbalik menyiapkan juadah untuk berbuka.. Haa..ni mesti semua orang buat kan ! Cuba lihat Hadith Nabi ni

Bukan aje bagi mereka-mereka yang masak, saya kira bagi mereka-mereka yang terkejar-kejar balik dari ofis terus singgah di PARAM sebab dah tak sempat masak pun dikira jugak la kan.. Dah namapun memberi makanan berbuka untuk orang berpuasa.

Nahh ! Senangkan..kot mana pun memang kita sebagai mak, penat ke tak sempat ke malas ke, mesti sediakan jugak hidangan untuk berbuka ( masak atau beli )…walaupun yang simple-dimple.Lain la masa bujang dulu. Kita kira diri kita je…

Itu dalam keluarga kecil kita. Kalau ada rezeki lebih atau nak lebih pahala, hantar makanan kat masjid-masjid yang anjurkan iftar..Ha…berganda2 pahala. Takpun bagi aje kurma, kurma mesti orang salu makan masa nak bukak kan.

Kami kat ofis ni meriah dengan kurma Yussof Taiyob sbb kilangnya dekat je. So amik pukal harga kilang la..heheh. Ada yang buat bisnes , dapat jugak untung buat duit raya .Ada yang sedekahkan pada orang. Macam- macam la..

Tolong menghidang pun saya kira pahala jugak la.. Nadiah Sidek,berganda2 la pahala masa dulu ek. Hari-hari jadi tukang hidang. Nak tau kisah lanjut Nadia, leh baca kat sini.

Kat rumah, kekadang bila penat masak segala ( saya ni masak ala-ala super sonic sbb peruntukan waktu yang terhad)... saya dah malas nak siap meja..setakat hidangkan apa yang masak atas meja. Masa tu jugak la si kecik ni nak berdokong , nak susu sebab masa masak, saya tak berapa nak layan dia.. ( kesian SI, ummi punya la concentrate nak masak bagi cepat ). Jadinya tugas tuang air, potong buah-buahan, bukak bungkusan dari PARAM kalau ada, kadangkala di ambil alih oleh suami atau adik..Aci tak..? Moga mereka juga dapat share .

Yang kita bincangkan pasal tukaq-tukaq juadah tu sebenarnya pahala jugak. Sbb kita bagi makanan berbuka untuk orang berpuasa. Ia bukan sekadar adat kita 1Malaysia, malah ia juga adalah ibadah..

Senangkan peroleh pahala yang tanpa kita sedar. Itulah untung kita jadi mak , byk pahalanya.Ayah pun dpt share jugak sebab duit beli ikan, ayam, sayur tu semua mai dari depa jugak kan..Nak Jugak!!

Eh, dah panjang bebelan saya..Moga ia bermanfaat untuk semua

It has been more than a week after my last entry. Hope that u guys can still remember me.. Kot la lama tak update, satgi lupa kawan sorang ni. Huhuh

We have less than 2 weeks to leave Ramadhan and to celebrate Syawal. Are you happy?Alim people cry to enter Syawal and leave Ramadhan. Because they want to grab more points that we cannot find in any other month.But we normal people , tak sabaq-sabaq nak tunggu Syawal kan? Dok ingat, bila la nak habis posa ni.

Renung-renungkan

Last weekend, we went back to MIL’s house for bukak puasa. As usual, MIL yang akan sibok-sibok preparing this and that. Cook and feed SI for lunch. While this menantu bertuah merely helping bit here and there. I love to bukak puasa at kampong because of the environment and feel. I remember when I was small, I used to be a transport to bring food to neighbour’s house. Sometimes have to wait for them to ‘salin bekas’ and exchange with their dishes. Food that normally been exchanged are kuih, bubur, whatever that we call dessert is likely to be exchanged .People don’t give fruits ( very rare except for unusual fruits) . and lauk ( again except for very special lauk)

My MIL’s kampong is still practicing this, Since their house is quite near to each to each other, each house just prepare one kuih/ dessert/bihun/mee/etc. Then they distribute to nearby. 3 houses is enough. They will get 3 different dishes back and total have 4 types of side dishes . and it happen everyday. Not once a week. On Sunday, our family prepare moreh to be distributed to jemaah kampong after tarawikh. –jenoh jugak dok prepare bahan-bahan untuk 70orang.

For me, the side dishes like kuih/murtabak is always from PARAM. Only main dishes like nasi ,lauk-pauk is cooked by me. Compulsory to have a big container of mix fruits.( everyday must have papaya,watermelon, honeydew, and some other fruits like banana, apple ) and I will decorated with kurma all over the bowl..heheh..very nice and colourful looking. – This is my papa style since we were small. Now,very seldom to receive /tukaq-tukar juadah with neighbour but still have. not that frequent. Ye la..masing-masing sibok keje, sampai umah dah pukul 6, nak masuk untuk family lagi..takdan nak buat side dishes ni.

Unless is weekend, sometimes I goreng bihun/mee or do taukua sumbat with kuah kacang ( our peberet) for extra dishes and give some to others. And I like to have variety of kuih muih during bukak posa..) oohh... sungguh bernafsu diriku ini…

OK, enough mentioning about food during day time.

Besides all the good food goes into our tummy, how bout spiritual , heart’s food dan bekalan for hereafter. Sia dah bertingkat ke .??? Jangan jadi sia-sia udah le..MOga sama-sama kita manfaatkan baki Ramadhan ini...

p/s: Bila dah start baca doa qunut masa witri tu, dah rasa semakin singkatnya Ramadhan kali ini.

*Sia- mangkuk tingkat*

Sungguh saya tiada mood untuk menulis, tapi masih tetap berkunjung ke rumah rakan2 dan meninggalkan jejak walaupun belum hari raya dan tak dijemput pun.

Walaupun banyak jugak idea malangnya ia tidak dapat diterjemahkan di sini. Entah kenapa..

Mungkin kepenatan menguruskan aktiviti harian ( almaklumla, tak boleh pam minyak kan).

Dengan jadual baru yang setiap hari pukul 6 lebih baru nak sampai rumah dan terus bersilat di dapur. Saya berangan-angan agar ada siapa-siapa nak jemput kami anak beranak berbuka di luar untuk skip rutin memasak. Tapi papa saya agak cerewet bila tiba bulan Ramadhan kerana dia hanya mahu makan masakan rumah dan pastinya ikan, ayam, udang ,daging yang fresh ( bukan yang terperap dlm freeze). Dan kadar minyak, gula, garam, no MSG yang pastinya lebih terkawal di rumah berbanding di PARAM (papa saya ni ada diabetes,darah tinggi skit) .

Arwah mama dulu setiap hari ke pasar selepas waktu kerja, balik trus bersilat masak. Tapi Alhamdulillah, papa memahami keaadan puterinya ini yang kerja diseberang laut dan anak kecil yang semakin banyak keletah. Maka ayam, ikan , bahan mentah bermukim di dlm freeze selama jangka hayat seminggu dan ikut turn untuk dikeluarkan

Itu bab masakan untuk iftar. Tak tengok lagi apakah ‘jualan murah’ yang sempat saya rebut utk bekalan di SANA . Kalau SALE di mall, bukan main cepat kaki melangkah, cepat tangan jolok kad, tekan pin # untuk kuarkan $$.

Tapi SALE yang lebih berbaloi –baloi yang ALLAH janjikan ini, adakah saya telah borong semuanya.Adakah point member card saya untuk dibawa ke SANA setanding atau lebih dengan point member card yang telah berjaya dikutip di gedung-gedung membeli belah ?

Baju raya berpasang-pasang, kuih berbalang-balang, duit raya beratus-ratus dah disediakan , tapi qiyam berapa kali dilaksanakan, rantaian tarawikh tak pernah putus ,Quran berapa juzuk dah dihabiskan, zikir , tahmid, tasbih, berapa ribu dah saya lafazkan , ? Atapun setakat ‘hot-hot chicken shit’. Taik ayam tu pun dah sejuk masuk minggu ke-2 Ramadhan .

Astagfirullah…cepat sungguh saya lalai. Saya ingatkan bila saya dah sediakan semuanya ( baju raya dah lama siap, baju raya SI dah lama beli ), saya dapat mengalihkan tumpuan saya dari semua SALE (padahal bukan nak beli sangat pun, syok jamu mata) ni, dan lebih menumpukan perkara sepatutnya yang kita buat di bulan mulia ni , tapi nampaknya, banyak lagi baja yang perlu ditaburkan supaya hati saya sentiasa subur, sentiasa alert /sensitive akan mission di bulan penuh barokah ni, tidak cepat pusing stereng bilamana kawan2 ajak shopping raya diwaktu lunch .

Biarpun setiap apa yang kita lakukan itu ibadah bila kita niatkan ( takut selama ni tak niat le), tapi bila Allah kasi diskaun lebih sket bulan Ramadhan ni, rugi besar kalau tak rebut terutama yang jarang –jarang kita dapat buat dalam bulan lain. Ala-ala, one day SALE for members gitu

Bagaimana Ramadhan anda minggu ke-2 ni..Saya mendoakan kawan-kawan akan cemerlang, gemilang , terbilang dan sentiasa istiqomah

Alhamdulillah...sekali lagi kita akan dipertemukan dengan bulan yang penuh rahmat dan barakah..

Alhamdulillah..di saat ni, kita masih dipanjangkan usia, dalam nikmat Iman dan Islam untuk bertemu dengan nya

Saya masih ingat kata2 arwah mama saya pada puasa 2006.Ketika itu saya sangat mengantuk dan mengajaknya mama pulang seusai 8 rakaat solat tarawikh. Bukan hari itu saja, hari-hari lain pun saya hanya terdaya untuk buat 8 rakaat saja.Kekadang kalau mengantuk sangat, saya tertido dalam kereta sementara menunggu arwah habiskan 21 rakaatnya. Arwah seringkali memarahi saya.saya orang muda ( ketika itu belum berkahwin ), tentu lebih kuat dan lapang untuk terus beribadah. Asyik mengantuk saja..Dan bila saya seolah-olah 'paksa' arwah untuk "jom balikla mama"..apa yang diungkapkan arwah...

"Mama takut ini Ramadhan mama yang terakhir"

Dan benar kata-kata arwah. itulah Ramadhan terakhir buatnya...

Buat sahabatku di luar sana...
Saya percaya dalam hati kita, kita berazam untuk merebut pahala ramadhan, melakukan amal ibadah sebanyak mungkin dan seikhlas mungkin. setiap kali Ramadhan, itulah yang kita inginkan...

Sebagai manusia...bila mana saja kita diuji, dengan kesibukkan dunia, karenah anak-anak,kemeriahan menyambut Syawal yang lebih dirasakan seawal Ramadhan, adakala kita alpa..kita lupa merebut 'jualan murah' yang Allah hamparkan buat kita dalam bulan yang mulia ini

Moga saya diberi kekuatan untuk mengabdikan diri lebih kepadaNya kerana saya ingin Ramadhan kali ini lebih baik dari yang sebelumnya dan saya juga takut andai kata Ramadhan ini terkahir untuk saya kerana sungguh saya amat dhaif.

Di kesempatan ini, saya dan keluarga ingin mengucapkan Selamat Menyambut Ramadhan. Saya mendoakan agar sahabat-sahabat sekalian menjalani ibadah ini dengan sempurna. Moga ke atas anda semua segala kebaikan yang Allah janjikan di bulan yang barokah ini.Hidupkanlah Ramadhan kita kali ini dengan puasa, memperbanyakkan amalan wajib&sunat dan sentiasa bersedekah…

Tadi selesai tengok crita NurKasih ( seperti biasa dengan feelingnya ), di penghujung cerita, Adam menduga Aidil, seperti ingin tahu adakah abangnya itu masih sukakan isterinya Nur Amina. Jelas riak di wajah Aidil yang dia masih sayangkan Nur tapi dek kerana Nur tu masih isteri Adam, maka tak patut sangatla Aidil menunjukkan dengan ketara harapan untuk dia mendapatkan Nur.. saya rasa dalam hati Aidil mesti berdoa agar Adam melepaskan Nur sementelah Nur sendiri seolah-olah dah tak mau dengan Adam ( padahal dalam hati dia mesti suka kat Adam..almaklumlah dah minat dari kecik)..tapi tu la spoil mak depa sakit pulak..kan dah terbantut niat nak berterus-terang..

eh..eh...saya pulak yang emosi... macam la I ni Kabir Bhatia ,tapi apa yang ingin saya perkatakan dalam entry kali ini adalah tentang CINTA IPAR. Bolehkah saya mengkategorikan Adam termasuk golongan cinta ipar ni.?? eh...eh..pandai2 je aku.. :)

Bukan apa..kebetulan, semalam ( Jumaat ) saya cuti balik kampung ada kenduri, sempat saya menonton Wanita Hari Ini ( WHI). Topik pulak pasal cinta ipar ni la. Panel jemputan ialah Dato' Dr Fadzillah Ali dan Diana Rafar. Diana dijemput sebab dia pernah melakonkan watak adik ipar yang fallin' in luv dengan abang ipaq, lakonan Eizlan ( saya dan jugak tengok drama ni tapi tak habis ). Ada pulak caller, seorang lelaki tipon crita masalah dia dengan abang ipar dia - suami kakak dia. Bayangkan abang ipar suka dengan adik ipar lelaki pulak tu.. sah2 dah g*y ni..so dia mintak pandangan dan nasihat Dato' ni la..


Antara point Dato' yang sempat saya ingat ialah.
1) kena tau hukum halal, haram..ini dah sah2 haram sebab kaum sejenis..kalau suka dekat perempuan tu logik jugakla.
2) elakkan dari tinggal serumah / berjumpa dgn abang ipaq tadi
3) selalu kena ingat, dia adalah suami kakak kandung kita, takkan kita nak biar kakak kita sendiri teraniaya
4) perlu ingat, dalam hal macam ini, banyak keluarga/hati yang involve. Keluarga kakak kita,
keluarga kita, mak ayah kita, keluaraga sebelah abang ipar, anak2 dia

Point lain yang Dato' kupaskan untuk cinta ipar secara amnya :
1) kalau adik ipar perempuan tinggal sekali, jgn dok berkemban keluar bilik air, pakai seksi,
walaupun dalam rumah makayah kita, kan ada abang ipar kita...
2) Kena hormat antara satu sama lain. Respek dia sebagai suami kakak kita jangan dok
mengada2, tergedik2.
3) Jangan terlalu mesra ( ipar tapi mesra??), tepuk tampaq, cuit muit dan sebagainya.
4) Jika kes, bercinta dengan adik, kawin dengan abang, bila2 time raya ka kenduri ka balik kampung mesti jumpa si adik, ex-boyfren tu kan.. Perlu buang jauh2 kenangan bersama dia dan perlu meletakkan hak dia sebagai adikipar, bukan lagi ex-boy.Perlu kuatkan hati dan jangan bagi chance kalau si adik tu cuba main mata
5) Bertepuk sebelah tangan tak akan berbunyi..( sapa kata, kalau p tepuk kat dinding ka meja
ka, ada bunyi jugak kan)..senang tak payah tepuk.Jangan sapa pun mulakan perasaan itu

Bagi saya point yang paling penting ialah Iman..bila iman ada dalam dada, insyaAllah, kita tahu bezakan itu abang ipaq, ni kakak ipaq, kita tahu batas kita. After all, aurat kita dengan depa still macam ajnabi.


P/S : Saya tertarik dengan pesona Adam ( Remy Ishak) dalam crita tu.Wahhh..sungguh
smart.Harapnya suami saya tak marah bila baca ni. Saya cuma mengkagumi dan memuji ciptaan Allah dan bakat yang Allah kurniakan utk Remy. Hehehe- ayat cover

P/S 2: Nasibla Aidil dlaam gambaq ni soleh.Kalau tak mesti dia dah api2kan Nur-Adam dan mula bunga2 cinta dengan Nur kan

I was talking to a kindy teacher cum KAFA Ustazah one day.Actually I was interested to know how she started her career as Ustazah KAFA and then became a kindy teacher.So, this lady told me about all the courses, test, exam that she has gone thru while showing me all her certificates. She even received an offer to pursue 2 years advance course at Al-Azhar in 2000 but she rejected it due to she has 6 kids to take care of ( of course + a husband). Hehe.


Is not that easy for her and other Ustaz/Ustazah KAFA to be granted for this position ( pentauliahan) . The oral test is damn hard. If they, the guru KAFA said is hard, apatah lagi kita ni.. I remembered one of the test that she mentioned was she were asked to read 6 surah. That one ok la…

Then she needed to spell it out ( mengeja dalam bahasa Arab- Alif Fathah Lam sukun – Al, Ha fathahmim sukum –Ham, dal dommah –Du..Alhamdu…) without any paper to write and just spell it out in the air. Is not stopped there. lots of fardhu ‘ain tricky questions tested . There are only 4 candidates per day. Can you imagine, how long per one interview session ? Some came out from the room in tears, some speechless.

All these procedure is to make sure that our country produce good Ustaz KAFA so that our next generations will be great . My kindy time, we are not exposed to this KAFA class but some states like Selangor and Kedah have started with the class. Since I don’t have very young sibling, I am not aware when actually government emphasize on KAFA class.

Back to this ustazah’s story. She is a very strict yet loving teacher. One day, there was a mother who planned to pull out his son from KAFA class. The reason was, the son’s English score was terrible. She planned to send the son to English tuition.

This Ustazah said , she had no problem with the idea but with ‘satu syarat’..aisehh..main syarat pulak …


Ustazah : “Satlagi puan balik, tiap2 hari masuk RM10 dalam tabung”

Mother : “Awat pulak nak masuk tabung RM10 Ustazah

Ustazah : “ Ingat pesan saya ni,masuk dalam tabung sepanjang puan hidup”


The mother still blur. Same goes to me. When I listen, I have no idea why


Ustazah: “Bila puan mati esok-esok, suruh anak puan pecah tabung ni,bayar orang mai mengaji utk mayat puan”



Zappp…tajamnya..


Ustazah : “Saya kata ni bukan apa..anak puan tak boleh mengaji elok2 lagi. Kalau stop , sampai bila pun dia tak buleh baca.kalau dia mengaji dah elok, dah pandai..saya pun tak halang

The mother quickly said that she wanted her son to remain in this KAFA class. But Ustazah who already feel ‘ tak syiok’ just informed the mother that she would not accept the son again and asked her to send to another KAFA if she wish to.

Me, totally silence after listening to the story. ……..

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Maybe to some parents KAFA is not as important as English, Science and Math subject. Perhaps most of them realize the essential of ‘ilmu agama’ but still taking the school subject more seriously . If the kids failed those subject, chance for them to enter university is slim or no chance at all. Consequently they do not get a better job and do not earn much ( This is Poor Dad’s way of thinking in “Rich Dad Poor Dad” )


But how about KAFA? Is there anybody sending their kids to tuition for subject Pendidikan Islam ? How many of parents do revise and check on our childrens’ amalan .

I am just throwing this idea so we can think about it together . I am neither at Ustazah nor the mother's side and not blaming any parents because each of us know what is the best for our children. But the story I wrote here hopefully is beneficial for us to take a PAUSE and THINK for the sake of our childrens’ future and our destiny .

I have a long journey to go with my family and I am afraid of doing mistake in between it.
Ya Allah, bantulah daku , bimbinglah daku dalam mengharungi kehidupan ini..

Last Sunday I brought my brother and my girl to RFC ( Radix Fried Chicken ) located at Sungai Petani. This is my 2nd time there while 1^st time for my brother who just came back home .

Both of us are K$C fans since kids because papa always brought us to K$C. ( that time the one at KOMTAR is famous-nak makan K$C kena p sana ).When we grow up , we don’t opt for K$C anymore and my brother likes to buy ayam goreng pasar malam ( yang kalau tengok minyak dalam kawah dia, sangat la gelap kalernya ).

So by having another brand similar to it, we wanna try. Not bad.. as good as K$F but of course in 1 year business, there are room for improvement. Overall, 4.5 stars out of 5. The food, the facilities, the worker ( semua tutup aurat , berbaju labuh jingga ke lutut and bertudung ekin J ) . My first visit, I kind a feel, this is an ‘soleh’ restaurant because you able to see customers coming in cover their aurah properly, u can see the fathers with kopiah, mom with tudung labuh/ besaq. I mentioned it to my brother and asked him to observe during our visit this time.

This time the same thing. Is not 100% la..some of them is also bertudung biasa but nobody open their aurah. I can only see 1 Chinese family and a group of tourist from Indonesia ( siap tangkap gambaq kat kaunter sebagai kenang2an). Am not sure about other days. But I believe lots of people from all different races, religions come to taste it.

Why is it so ? Why the this fast-food restaurant is different from other fast-food restaurant in town ? From my thinking, one of factor that contribute to this environment is the effort by the Manufacturer/ owner of RFC. U know the tagline of “ Mai secawan’..haaa.. this is the owner of all Radix business network such as RFC, Radix Chicken Rice, Radix Original recipe . All these are their restaurant.

How HPA Management really emphasize on halal, suci. Prior to perform work at their premise ( restaurant or plant ) the worker is ‘berwudhu’ and ‘berdoa’, read mathurat and perform Solat Dhuha. Even the capsule that used for making their pill are also from suci/halal source.

I was exposed to HPA back in 2003. I registered as a member and during that time they don’t have many products like today. Am proud of HPA that grows this far and of course support from customers. The big boss has a clear direction where to bring the company. The modus operandi is also suci, bersih, halal and they really mean it.In achieving their goal, they always look for Allah’ s bless. We can see from the way they run the business. They practice Islam as the way of business life from the material supply, production, output, manpower , sales and marketing.They even rear their own organic chickens in own farm. The most important, they offer us the consumer with halal& suci products so we have alternative in the market.

U can found more info bout HPA in jawiherbshop.blogspot.com and read their story in this July Anis magazine

P/s: can't wait for new RFC branch in Penang.

Kali ni dari kenalan baru UmmiHanie yang muda jelita tapi dah beranak 3+1 coming soon.Sebelum saya lupa, baik saya langsaikan tag Hanie ni..

apa dia ..??

1) Copy gambar di bawah ini.


2) Kemudian pilih 10 sahabat dan wajibkan mereka melakukan perkara yang sama.Dengaq tu WAJIB, tak buat maka hukumnya ....? heheh

Oleh kerana saya suka sangat men 'cut short' kan list 'kepada' maka dari 10 orang tinggai la 5 orang bertuah menerima tag ini. Ok maka saya ingin menyampaikan tag berunsur dakwah ini kepada
1) Kak Suealeen
2) Nas
3) Bed
4) Zura
5) MamaDira the strawberi cake

Kalau sahabat2 sekalian dah buat, tak mengapa..tidak perlu diulang ...

p/s: sekali sekala dapat tag unsur dakwah, mengingatkan diriku yang lalai dari tanggungjawabku sebagai daie'. Syukran Ya UmmiHanie!!

Monday afternoon, my colleagues and I pay a visit to our ex-colleague who just came back from umrah.

My ex-colleague called it Kak A actually was on medical board and discontinue her service due to health problem. She was detected to have a breast cancer stage 4 at late 2006 and had gone thru an operation to remove one of her B. Mid-2007, she came back working as normal . I’d say she is a very strong and high motivation lady. As we know, cancer patient must have high motivation and ‘kuat semangat’ for them to survive. Of course ajal maut is Allah’s direction but as a human, what we can do is to usaha, doa and tawakal.

We were shocked with another news end of 2007 where the cancer cell spreaded to her brain. And this time is really a hard time for her and the family. She kind of lost her memory and on and off had ‘kancing gigi’. And now she likes a baby that need help to walk, to eat. But she able to talk slowly but seems like she forgot lots of things.

We regularly visit to know her progress and help to recall her memory. Sometimes, she needs her ex-officemate to chit chat with her so that she would remember she worked before and talked about office related stuff after spending so much time with family

She like a sister to me that always advise and guide me in the first year of my working journey. Is not only about work, she shares her experience in life, how she gone thru life from small until now, having a happy family and blessed with 3 kids. She is a very cheerful person,. Always laughing and positive. She is very good at cooking and sewing. And good at decorating house . She always looks pretty and presentable at any time. I admire her motherly when she with her family and her leadership when she is at work.

I once thought that she is very lucky married to a rich guy that can pampered her with material. She likes jewelry and have loads of it. She build a big nice bungalow.When I asked her bout this she said life is not like a bed of roses at the beginning. His husband is nobody at first. Marrying her when he was only a clerk while Kak A holding a degree. Her earning is even higher than the husband. Then the husband further study taking a degree and continue with master. During the husband was studying, she sacrificed a lot. Renting a small house with only one room . I would say she sacrifice in order to support the husband study and growing kids.

And the bungalow house they have now is sharing with the husband but her share is the biggest. I can still remember her words to me

“Bukan kawin2, dok umah besaq macam ni..simpan duit lama baru leh merasa dok macam ni. Kak A pulun simpan duit, dengan husband dok mengaji, anak lagi.Mula2 pakai keta 2^nd hand ja”

And today looking at her pale , weak face, skinny body.I just cannot stand. I use to see her everyday full of joyousness. She is very lucky having a loving husband , kids and both her family and in-laws. I can see the sincerity in her husband’s eye taking care of a sick wife that sacrifice a lot during her healthy day. Now is time for the husband to ‘pay’. The kids seems to understand. But Kak A did told me the elder daughter who turn 16 this year cried non-stop when she first discover about her mother breast cancer. She managed to get 8A’s in last PMR even though looking after her mother. I see her grow matured compare to other 16 years-old cheeky girl

And the 12 year-old and 7 year-old son, I yet to deeply read their mind/heart. I believe they started to understand their mother’s condition.

Every time coming back from visiting her, I always wondering and thinking. We never knows what gonna happen in future. If I were to be at Kak A’s place, I don’t know what to say , at time your are doing well in your career, living happily with your husband and kids. Murah rezeki and when Allah want it to be ‘ Kun fayakun’. Nobody can stop it.

Bayangkan jika kita terlalu tumpu kepada urusan duniawi’ and KIV ‘urusan ukhrawi’. Kalau tak KIV pun, kita still buat bekalan ukt akhirat , adakah kita bersungguh2 melakukannya sebagaimana kita bersungguh2 ‘mengejar’ apa yang manusia perlu ada di dunia yang fana ini. Takut utk difikirkan tapi kita tak buleh tidak untuk membiarkan kerana di ‘sana’ adalah kekal dan pasti Kita tidak tahu berapa lama masa yang kita ada .

Am sure we have been listening to “ Bekerja mencari rezeki seperti hendak hidup bertahun2 lagi, beribadat seperti kamu akan mati keesokkan hari.”

Dengarlah wahai hati …

I was listening to IKIM.fm on my way back home yesterday. Tuesday evening’s slot is a talk given by Dr. Arif from UKM regarding Quran and Science. Couples of slot previously was discussing about al-Quran, ayah in Quran,numbering in Quran, how it was arranged , how it’s relate to science so on and so forth.

Dr.Arif did shared with ‘Mustami’unal kiraam”-pinjam perkataan DJ Muna Jazman utk slot Haaiya bil ‘Arabiah on experience of Mualaf from West . How did they discover and attracted to Islam by reading/studying Quran .

Since I was quite late off from office, I managed to listen halfway. Interesting part was, yesterday Dr. Arif talked about breastfeeding by quoting ayah in Quran and he elaborated on it when I turned the radio on. Am not sure what is the topic about as I did not listen from beginning but I believe is breastfeeding is a part of point of his topic. Further he also elaborated on aurah and some other fiqh related ayah

Am afraid my writing here is not 100% as his words , but I try my best to recall.So any reader that listened to him yesterday or have knowledge about it , kindly correct me if mistaken

He took ayah from Surah Luqman (15)

"Dan Kami perintahkan kepada manusia (berbuat baik) kepada dua orang ibu-bapaknya; ibunya telah mengandungnya dalam keadaan lemah yang bertambah-tambah, dan menyapihnya dalam dua tahun. Bersyukurlah kepada-Ku dan kepada dua orang ibu bapakmu, hanya kepada-Kulah kembalimu."

And another ayah from Surahtul ahQaaf (14)

"Kami perintahkan kepada manusia supaya berbuat baik kepada dua orang ibu bapaknya, ibunya mengandungnya dengan susah payah, dan melahirkannya dengan susah payah (pula). Mengandungnya sampai menyapihnya adalah tiga puluh bulan, sehingga apabila dia telah dewasa dan umurnya sampai empat puluh tahun ia berdoa: "Ya Tuhanku, tunjukilah aku untuk mensyukuri nikmat Engkau yang telah Engkau berikan kepadaku dan kepada ibu bapakku dan supaya aku dapat berbuat amal yang saleh yang Engkau ridai; berilah kebaikan kepadaku dengan (memberi kebaikan) kepada anak cucuku. Sesungguhnya aku bertobat kepada Engkau dan sesungguhnya aku termasuk orang-orang yang berserah diri".

Both surah stated about breastfeed. In surah Luqman, weaning in 2 years time while in Surahtul Ahqaaf, the carrying of the child to his weaning is a period of 30 months.

Jom buat matematik sikit

Carrying child + Breastfeed = 30 months

x + 24 months = 30 months

x = 30 months – 24 months

= 6 months

X = pregnancy only 6 months? Orientalist might use this to say that Quran is wrong. All the while we know that pregnant is ~9months.

But Allah is Great ! He want us to study deeper and matsalleh specialist already prove from their research that if a baby was delivered after his/her 6 months old in the womb, provided with extra care for premature baby, the baby will able survive and alive. That is why in Western country ( I can’t recall which country Dr.Arif was referring to), for any abortion is must less than 6 months

This is only some point of his talk. He even elaborated more .

Another point from him is specifically about breast milk (BM).

Surah Al-Baqarah (223)

"Para ibu hendaklah menyusukan anak-anaknya selama dua tahun penuh, yaitu bagi yang ingin menyempurnakan penyusuan. Dan kewajiban ayah memberi makan dan pakaian kepada para ibu dengan cara yang makruf. Seseorang tidak dibebani melainkan menurut kadar kesanggupannya. Janganlah seorang ibu menderita kesengsaraan karena anaknya dan juga seorang ayah karena anaknya, dan waris pun berkewajiban demikian. Apabila keduanya ingin menyapih (sebelum dua tahun) dengan kerelaan keduanya dan permusyawaratan, maka tidak ada dosa atas keduanya. Dan jika kamu ingin anakmu disusukan oleh orang lain, maka tidak ada dosa bagimu apabila kamu memberikan pembayaran menurut yang patut. Bertakwalah kepada Allah dan ketahuilah bahwa Allah Maha Melihat apa yang kamu kerjakan."

The 2 years complete breastfeed is a guide not only for Muslim but to all human beings as Quran is “dustur’ (panduan) to all . Worldwide, WHO, international organization draw a line for a 6 month for exclusive breastfeed and to continue until 2 years for a complete cycle.

I remember my conversation with my boss ( a Chinese man) and another colleague on pregnancy , breastfeeding as my boss is expecting to be a daddy soon. He was asking me until when I’m gonna breastfeed my daughter. From his way of questionning, I tried to analyze that he might think different race/religion might have different “timeline”. Confidently I said “2 years” ( dalam hati berdoa agar dipermudahkan usaha dan diperbanyakkan rezeki susu utk anakku ). He told that he and his wife was briefed the same thing ( 2 years) by a nurse during attending antenatal class . So we are singing the same song boss ! Yeahhh !

Back to Dr. Arif explanation :
There is a research from matsalleh country ( u may want to contact Dr. Arif for further details of the research ) on breastmilk sample from a 0 day of (BM) until 40 months BM that was taken from a nursing mother . 1cm³ of each sample is being studied on the nutrient and a chart was plotted.

These scientist discovered that content of carbohydrate in BM is the most at the age of 20months while after 24 months, the content starts to drop and dropping further. Of course there are abundance nutrients inside BM than cannot be challenged by any formula milk but Dr. Arif only hilited this part

For those who go and study only able to know why Quran said weaning is after 24 months. There must be a reason for a thing to happen. Allah knows the best and always give the best. MasyaAllah… Appreciate those scientist that working hard in their research sometimes for years to support the truth. They are coming from various of ethnic and religion . Wahai diri yg mengaku Muslim ni bila nak kaji Quran..??

P/S : You can personally email to Dr. Arif to get access to his blog for more interesting discovery about Quran/Islam and Science . He is on air for IKIM every Tues about 6pm.

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