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Friday, February 13, 2009

Circle of Concerns, Circle of Influence Part 1

Since I’m still in the mood of writing about BreastFeeding ( BF), so this entry will discuss on BF , concern and influence.

After few entries about my BF journey, hereby I try to discuss on how BF influence us or do we have any influence on BF. This is only my points of view solely base on my experience. There might have some argument/disagreement and I am open for any discussion.

According to concept introduced by Steven Covey in his The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. We each have a wide range of concerns and now let me take BF as the whole idea and existed since day 1. As we look at those points that I’m going to discuss what are those concerns and influence in BFing

Circle of Concerns
When the world begin to embrace technology, environment become challenging and demanding, people are more sophisticated and moving in dynamic pace .Higher education is essential to determine future . As a result , more and more women, mothers excel with flying colors and go out with men working.

This is a good phenomenon. We are proud of women who can hold a very high title in an organization at the same time playing role as a mother especially in bfing their baby . But as the day goes, this mom start to concern on her duty as bfeeder. As a career woman, she cant escape from busyness , long working day, tiring and lack of time. End up beloved baby is supplied with FM as an alternative way.

I’m here is not to blame the mother who FMed their baby . Lots of factors contribute to unable to BF. Circle of Concern is something that we have no real control and nothing much that we can do about it/ change it. U can’t change your working hour 8-5.(unless u set up ur one company). U can’t say to your boss, don’t give me too much load bcoz I am exhausting and busy .

Non –supporting family/ relatives/peer/employer is also another significant factor. As new mom, we tend to follow what elderly say or sort of respect. Do u think our elderly can just change their mindset after years believing in FM ? is not as easy as an abc. This is another concern!

“Susu tak banyak”. How do u know ? is the B size matters ? I had experience with one Mak Bidan who massaged me on my 4th day of confinement . Confidently she claimed that I don’t have much milk by looking at my B and performed massage . I felt so depressed and foresee the failure to BF . But now I’ve proved her wrong. ( Is not a big deal for me anyway, she just expressed what she experienced). Again, inadequacy of milk and B size is a concern that u can’t change. U never know your capacity to store/produce milk without looking at ‘inner tank’ and even it is small, can you change the size, can’t u ??

Do not much information / knowledge in BF. This is concerns that we can change . I’ll talk more in BF Circle of Influence later on.

FM is available in any stores. Just go and grab it. That is the reality. Of course as FM manufacturer I’m gonna double my effort just to make sure I’m making profit over the situation . U are not powerful enough to get these manufacturer to stop production in order to get everybody BF

Feel shy to BF in public.? People are staring at you ? Or you might have 18SX scene inadvertently .Another concern to think of. U can’t change those people who is staring at u ( if any ) . After all is in public what ! If the place do not have appropriate place for you to BF the baby . Can you build it one inside immediately or else the baby is starving ..?? Your are not there to be an architect to re-design the building . Below link is recent opinion discussed in our local newspaper discussing on BF in public

The Star Feb 8 2009
The Star Feb 10 2009
The Star Feb 12 2009

And some more concerns on BF that I don’t think to continue listing here.

According to Covey, reactive people , focus their effort in Circle of Concerns. They focus on the weakness, the problem in environment and circumstances over which they have no control.

As long as we are working in our Circle Of Concern, we empower the thing within it to control us. We aren’t taking the proactive initiative necessary to effect positive change . The –ve energy generated by focusing on the concerns which difficult to tackle, combined with neglect in areas they could do something about, causes their Circle of Influence to shrink.

While proactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Influence. They work on the things they can do something about it. The nature of their energy is +ve, enlarging and magnifying, causing their Circle of Influence to increase.

I should take a rest and have a fresh mind next day to discuss on Circle of Influence

Till then..

Ummu Imtiyaz
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