Imtiyaz

BF-Breastfeed/Breastfeeding
FM- Formula Milk
BM- Breast Milk

When I decided to exclusive BF Shukrina and continue to BF her until 2 years, BF is among the topic that always been chatted among our family and friend. I feel like one kind of satisfaction ( do not read as ‘riyak’) when I can talked about BF and is a way for me in promoting BF to people around me .I would say there are some who seconded me and some were pessimist . Maybe to BF the baby without FM is somehow is new environment to some of them. Even to myself. I just got to know about BF and the whole concept /practice when I delivered Shukrina to be exact after my confinement

I’m not alone facing all these people that come with their own thinking . My husband also sometimes drag into this issue. Luckily he able to counter even he is not 100% equipped with BF knowledge .

Fortunately, I did not receive very harsh comment like some other BF mommies. As far as they concern is not about why 100% BM , why bother to go an pump 3x/day , why so stingy to buy FM BUT more to how long I can achieve it. Is kind of competition between me and them/their wives. As I draw a line at 2 years , they keep asking either me or my husband . “Dok menyusu lagi ka”, “ Dah campoq susu tin ka”. “ Susu ada lagi noo”. Oho..I am not competing with anybody. Is just my personal goal.

The person that asked the question is somehow is not exclusively BF and the baby has wean before 1 year old because of some reasons such “susu dah kering” , “ p kursus 3 hari, balik anak takmau dah” , “ ni anak dah no.3, susu kurang compare masa anak 1^st “

I even received a challenge .
“Saya nak tengok Dayah nak BF sampai anak no. berapa. Nanti anak seterusnya mesti tak buleh nak 100% sbb experience saya anak 1^st banyak mai anak ke-4 dah tak banyak”- dalam nada yang bukan encouraging but mencabar and to make me down

Hei, suka hati saya la nak BF sampai anak no berapa ka sampai bila ka ..? ( kata hati saya sudah mau mengamuk tapi berjaya cool ). But I accept it positively and take up the challenge.

Sometimes I argue back ( read as "debate in good manner") but sometime I just let it go..no point of arguing

We can’t predict our next BF journey as we never know the future. We might not know for instant if we will be on medication that disable us from BF our next baby. What we can do now is to ‘pasang niat’ to xclusively BF all our children and to appeal to Allah may He give us an ease journey and rezki ( abundance of BM ).

What is the motive behind the question ? I am thinking that they might be :

1) jealous as I can BF up to date, while they can’t – because they know the benefits of BF

2) OR I got myself into trouble with pumping gear,pumping rountine, baby ‘bergayut sampai tak buleh buat apa” while they are 'free'

3) OR they just think I’m too ambitious and don’t think I will achieve it because they prove that they can’t

4) OR they just wait for me to say “ Saya dah tak menyusu Shukrina sbb susu kering” OR “ Saya dah tak larat.bagi botol lagi senang".

5) OR they just want to motivate me to carry on , Go Dayah Go..
( ni ayat utk bersangka baik, tetapi kenapa ia berada di point terakhir ??)

BF is not competition.Who achieve 2 years is the winner, while less than that is looser. But if some people still treat is a competition , it should be a healthy competition .We don't want scarcity mentality but what we want is abundance mentality. People with an abundance mentality believe there are enough resources available to accomplish their goals. They also believe that their success doesn't mean failure for others. On the contrary, the more successful they are, the more others are affected in a positive way.

We would like to encourage everybody to BF as long as they can. We don’t look down to mother that can’t BF but we are lending a hand to help and share our experience &knowledge

Set your goal, gain knowledge and go for it. For those who meet the target, congratulations! I know is not a’ bed of roses ‘ journey. I admit that I have no guarantee to 100% supplying Shukrina with BM until she is 2 years as I have no more stock in my fridge and my pumping output today is for Shukrina tomorrow’s input .Everyday comes with hard work to pump and doa. But I do hope that able to BF her until 2 years.

This is a lesson to learn. I started with zero stock after confinement and rapidly build it up.You can read my experience here. Alhamdulillah Shukrina is consuming ummi’s milk until today.I should be prepared early (stocks) for my 2^nd baby. Thank you to all SI members that really encourage and motivate me.