Imtiyaz

Is it a norm for a toddler ( around Shurkina’s age ) to have high sense of individualistic or self-centered ( I cant get the right word at the moment ) or to be exact unwilling to share ?

Shukrina is not that “friendly”. Friendly in the terms that she doesn’t like to be with people that she are not familiar with. She only wants to be us her parents, the babysitter and family and my papa + my brother. The rest..sorry she will disappoint you. Up to day whenever we go back to MIL’s house, she only want to be with her paksu .Only him. Not my MIL and other in –laws. Kesian kan matok tak buleh nak dokong 1^st cucu. But Shukrina will accept when the person offers her food and feed her. Nak dokong..sorry..suap saje buleh..

Over the time, she grows and started to know her ‘property’. She knows her bag, shoes, clothes.. She know which one is umi’s purse, watch, mobilephone.

I noticed she reluctant to share her things with others. And when she saw other people took her belonging, she starts to grab it back roughly .. and other people’s thing.. dia nak pulak..adoiii..jenoh ummi nak kawal.

I did spoke to her telling& persuaded that “Shukrina please share with kakak” or “Give kakak some”. Sometimes it works but most of times, she would not listen to me.

I am just afraid that she will continuously behave like this . I observed some other kids ( about Shukrina’s age ) also behave the same way but there are some that very generous . Willing to share. I feel like ‘malunya anak aku dok suka amik barang orang’. Sometimes, I even made Shukrina cry by quickly snatch the thing from her hand and return back to the owner. Is it a wrong way to do so?

Is it because she is the only child in the family and everyone kind of ‘pamper’ her with toys,book,food. She yet to experience sharing with others. Is it happen to other child as well or only my daughter..?

Here is some of my reading on above topic

Toddlers do not share without prompt. It is by no means the natural behavior of a selfish, self-centered two-year-old—and that's the only kind of two-year-old there is. So if you want your child to begin sharing, you need to teach him how to do it—and repeatedly encourage him to share.

Since this is my first child, I would seek for your advise. For abi.. "ala budak budak memang mcm tu, anak sorang pulak tu. Ajaq dia pelan2..”

What I can do now, is keep advising and telling her to share , show her that ummi also care for other people by sharing . She will need to be in crowd at her age more often so that she learn to share rather than be in adults crowd where everyone paying attention and fulfill her need .

Some more tips from Mr Google.

If your toddler does grab a toy (or food or anything else) from another child, you'll need to step in immediately. Quickly and firmly, but without anger (if possible), return the toy to the child who had it first and tell your child, "No grabbing!" Then remind your child that if he wants something that someone else is already playing with, he must:

wait his turn;

ask for your help in setting up turns;

ask the other child nicely and get permission to use the toy; or

offer the other child a trade so that both children end up with something they want to play with.

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